Roberta Roslund

My friends say they're Christian but they don't act like it

Roberta Roslund
My friends say they're Christian but they don't act like it

A tough part of this situation is the loneliness it can bring - feeling like your own friends don’t understand you. Or maybe you feel disappointed in them, or even angry. Another ugly feeling this brings is that of judgment. You’re living a life of Jesus and doing everything you can to live your faith out and it can be frustrating when people around you are not doing that. 

Something important to remember is that Jesus loves them. He loves them as much as he loves you, and showing them that love is important. It can be easy to become defensive and judgmental. When Jesus spoke about judgement he was pretty serious-“Do not point out the speck in someone else’s eye when you have a plank in your own” (Matthew 7:3-5). Ultimately, we do not know the hearts of others but we need to trust that Jesus does, and that He is working on them.

It is okay to ask your friends questions and maybe even point out that they are not making the best decisions BUT always pray and ask for wisdom before doing this. Also, remember to approach them with grace and love. Show them that you are asking because you care. They may listen or they may not - you can’t force them. If they decide not to listen, then you have to let them make their choice, and that part may be the most difficult. You may also need to choose not to spend as much time with them if they are doing things that put you in a bad situation or make you uncomfortable. 

But keep praying for them always and do not let bitterness or judgment enter your heart. If you are seeking Jesus and living a life for him, then you are truly an inspiration and example to all of those around you. And when they’re ready, they will know you are there for them!