Hi friends! I’m so glad you are here today, and I’m so excited to dig into a little bit of God’s Truth with you. But before we begin, I’d like to tell you a little bit about myself.
My name is Christina, and I love fashion. I love following the latest trends via Pinterest and Instagram, thrift store shopping for hidden treasures, outfit planning, and a really good sale. My friends come to me to help pick out their clothing for special occasions and I am constantly trying to recreate those cute outfits cluttering up my Pinterest boards. However, I also love Jesus and serving Him and worshiping Him with my every breath. So, how do those two mix together? I’m glad you asked!
I know it isn’t easy. And sweet girl, I feel your pain when trying to shop for skirts that are long enough or shirts that aren’t too tight or clothes that cover up just the right places. I totally get the struggle. And I’ll be the first to tell you, it’s not going to be easy. But with the right mindset and attitude, dressing modestly can become a joyful part of your life. (And hear this, modesty does not have to equal frumpy…you can still look cute while dressing to glorify Jesus!)
Listed below are the rules and suggestions I follow when shopping for new clothes or getting dressed in the morning. My goal is always to point others to Jesus. And I hope these will help you do the same.
1. Give Yourself a Heart Check
Girls, modesty is not just about what you wear. It is about the condition of your heart. Modesty is an outward expression of Jesus living inside of us. It mirrors what is of the highest priority in our hearts to those around us. As females, that most often comes out in the way we dress. I know most of us dread the topic, viewing it as a list of rules squashing our individuality, but perhaps that is because of the Holy Spirit’s conviction prompting us. Don’t ignore it, but rather work THROUGH it with Jesus holding your hand. Be convicted and fall more in love with Jesus through the process. In my 14 years of following Jesus, I can say without a shadow of a doubt that the times I have grown the most have been a result of conviction.
Even though what we wear may seem insignificant or like it’s no big deal, those small moments of compromise will lead to bigger moments of disobedience if we aren’t careful. Temptation comes in all forms and sizes. It’s not just big and glaring.
There will always be temptation in our lives. But before we can recognize it, we have to know what is being held on the throne of our hearts. Do we ignore the Holy Spirit convicting us? Or do we seek Christ in even the simplest moments of our everyday? As we seek Christ in our daily lives, it’s not that the temptations of short shorts and low-cut shirts become nonexistent, but rather, the call of living for Christ dims the world around us, drawing our hearts to Him in those moments. Our hearts become sold out for Jesus, and in turn, we dress modestly as an outpouring of our love for Him.
2. Set Boundaries (and don’t let yourself deviate from them)
How does this look for me? I don’t buy shorts under a 5” inseam, tops that are off the shoulder or show my midriff, or swimsuits that show more skin than they cover. I wear an undershirt with almost everything, and only wear leggings under certain conditions. These are just some of the personal boundaries I set for myself, and can vary from person to person based on our own convictions. And believe me, I mess up all the time still. (Cue all the cute off the shoulder summer dresses…)
Yes, I find cute items of clothing that I would love to own that deviate from my boundaries, but I’ve learned over the years how to say no (and it wasn’t easy!) Deciding on what to wear and what to buy causes me to look to my heart and focus on Jesus. Clothing choice can be as much of a temptation as any other worldly item. I need to constantly set this question before my heart: What are my intentions when I get dressed in the morning?
When you set boundaries, you know where you stand before attempting the daunting task of summer clothes shopping or finding those perfect back-to-school outfits. Boundaries help eliminate the temptation of not-so-modest clothing since you already know what you’re NOT going to wear. It’s a great way to keep yourself accountable. And by telling OTHERS your boundaries, they can keep you accountable as well.
3. Ask Yourself: Am I seeking to worship Jesus or glorify myself?
Why am I wearing what I am wearing? Do my choices bring Him more glory? Or is it for myself? (Which, being honest, was usually my case as I sought acceptance from my peers. . .and still do some days). Is it to get someone else’s (either our peers or guys) attention? Or am I focused on showing others my relationship with Jesus?
It’s a hard lesson to learn as a girl, but the refining of who we are in Christ that takes place as we seek Him is where our TRUE beauty shines from.
Our hearts are so precious, and the Lord created modesty as a BEAUTIFUL thing for his daughters that comes straight from the heart. It is not suffocating or repressing. It is freeing, liberating, and ultimately, it is part of the language we use to set ourselves apart from the restraints of this world. It is an OUTPOURING of our freedom in Christ. It is a SENSITIVITY to sin in our lives and the practice of DISCERNMENT. It puts on display our gentleness, purity, and VIRTUE.
Modesty is just as much a part of following Christ as reading our Bibles and spending time in prayer. It is is oh so important to us living as women for Jesus, pointing others towards our Heavenly Prince in all that we do.
4. Some Practical Tips
So, HOW do we do this? I’m not implying that we need to run to our closets and throw out every piece of clothing we own - but it is time we start SETTING OURSELVES APART from the world in this area. Modesty is a lost art, and it will take a sold-out generation for Christ to change that. The world is no stranger to condoning sin or even glamorizing it. Sin is more of an adventure than it is a danger these days, and we need to be careful that we don’t get pulled in.
My BEST advice is this: Spend time in the Word. Spend time in prayer. Find a mentor. I know it sounds like a broken record, but the more time you spend seeking Jesus, the easier this will be. You will become more aware of the sin surrounding you. You will become more cautious in how you approach it, more ready to confess it, and stronger in your resistance to temptation. The Lord will reveal the areas of your life that need more discernment or decorum. He will guide your heart to Him and your desires will mesh with His as they become one.
Modesty is not something we have to do alone, but with the Lord guiding us, it is one of the ways we can SPEAK GRACE into this world. Have you ever thought of modesty as being a tool to share the Gospel? My prayer for us girls is that as God continues to work on our hearts, we would be shining lights of true beauty and worth into this world, like never before!
BONUS TIP: Write Colossians 3:12 on a notecard and stick it by your closet, dresser, or on your mirror. Let it serve as a daily reminder to follow Christ in every area of our lives, including how we dress.
SOME VERSES TO CONSIDER:
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” (Colossians 3:12-14)
“Likewise, women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control…” (1 Timothy 2:9a)
“Beauty should not come from outward adornment such as braided hair or gold jewelry or fine clothes, but from the inner disposition of your heart, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in God’s sight…” (1 Peter 3:3-4)
“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” (Proverbs 31:25)
Christina is just an Oklahoma girl who loves all things Jane Austen and Audrey Hepburn. She believes ice cream is a major food group and giraffes were meant to be pets. Coffee is one of her love languages and there is nothing better than Oklahoma evenings spent on her front porch. She likes to twirl, sing Christmas carols, and watch princess movies on a regular basis. But her first love will always be Jesus. He radically changed her life as a teenager, and she strives to spend each day worshiping Him and showing others the beauty that is His unconditional love.
Christina also works as a Ministry Assistant and Girls Ministry leader - and you can check out her blog over HERE.